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She was innocent and deeply wounded

As doctors, we encounter different situations, we phase extremes of emotions, we witness strange scenarios….. would like to share one story that made me-stay away for a while, think & re-think about GOD, see the blessings that each of us have even in small things.
Back in 2014–15 during my House job in med-school we have rotational postings in every departments (medicine,surgery,obstetrics… etc) ,Those days I was posted in Obstetrics and Gynecology department, Out patient department(OPD)- patients are standing in queue, I was sitting next to the professor.Generally as a male doctor , this department has some courtesy to us ( Most of the patients does not come to us, females prefers females )during OPD days I became a watchmen, But my professor was a lovely lady , she always tried to discuss cases with us and included us in most of the procedures with patient’s consent.
An OPD day, We got a call from Emergency department that there is a young lady in severe pain and she is 8 week pregnant and is due for her first ultrasosnography. As I was a watchmen in OPD ,I was free to run to the emergency department. As I reached there I could see a lady of 30 years of age crying in pain and her blood pressure was falling along with deranged other vital parameters , Any pregnant women with such a pain and signs are not in a good list, They might be having something like uterine problems such as ECTOPIC pregnency ( baby is not inside the uterus and moving forward with pregnency would both endanger baby and mother) , in these scenarios as baby grows it would stretch the Fallopean tube -causing severe pain , even can end up breaking that tube resulting - profuse bleeing inside the tummy.
Since her blood pressure was falling, We had to move her to the acute surgical department with a suspicion of this Reptured ectopic pregnancy , did an Ultrasosnography- found heavy pool of blood, Took her to the Operation theater, my professor opened her tummy and repaired the uterus and fixed the issue, her husband was happy that we could save her life at the same time sad for the baby which was impossible to save in such a situation.
Days passed, I moved from one department to the other as it was my Rotations. I met the same girl in Psychiatry department suffering from severe depression, I was shocked. she was literally crying, talking same stuffs again and again, dreams about her baby, a family, full of stuffs that she dreamed off. That day, I tried to talk to her husband, he did recognize me and was happy to share his number.The next day, I called him, I was shattered about the happenings in their life.
Right from there love life, there was sorrows, dark-days, pain. They both were in love and struggled to marry, since they had a lot of differences both families were against, after a lot of pain they agreed for marriage just because of a single reason, ‘’The girl is Pregnant’’. Things went smoothly until then she was took to the emergency department .
Soon they came to know that there is no more baby, all of it started agin- the blame game between the families, time where she was dying for support and care , they were suppose to decide about forgetting each other and to move on with another person, I was sad to hear all that— such a tough test for her and him. Fortunately , They decided to get out of the house and live together whatever happens. She lost her baby, and the family. Nothing made her happy, she was dived down to depression. Instead of playing and caring the baby she was taking medicines and counselling to cure her mind. I could only shake my hand with the husband who stood with her and pray for them for a speedy recovery and a new baby soon.
I thought How badly life drives someone from sky to ground and still we kept complaining how non worthy our lives are…!!

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